In Memoriam

Linden Mayers (Banghart)

Linden Mayers (Banghart)

Be sure to scroll down to the moving story contributed by Anne Stephenson Glickman. 

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05/17/13 04:18 PM #1    

Nancy Selinka (White)

Linden was my neighbor freshman hear in South Mandelle.  A wonderful, warm, friendly, happy neighbor. We made friends instantly and enjoyed one another's company. Then, in later years, we lived in different dorms, took different classes, and our paths didn't cross very much, which I regret. I read with sadness that Linden had passed away. I remember her well and the fun we had together. I wish we'd had more.

Nancy Selinka White


05/28/13 09:03 AM #2    

Sally Nunneley

The following remembrance was sent to me by Roddy Pratt Mack:

 Lin had a devilish sense of humor, played a mean hand of bridge, and was one of the most sensitive persons you would ever meet.  She always knew when something was not right, and sat you down for a chat.  She was also very generous.  When I was traveling to my junior year in Italy on scholarship during a rough period in my family's finances, she and her parents not only hosted my mother and me at their Greenwhich home, but also drove us to and from the ship.  I regret that I did not have an opportunity to hang out with Lin and John after their marriage.


05/29/13 06:50 AM #3    

Sally Nunneley

The following remembrance was sent to me by Anne Stephenson Glickman:

Linden came from Greenwich, CT, and was a very warm person; her family was wonderful to this classmate who came from Montana, knew no one and was unable to travel home for most school vacations. I spent all Thanksgiving holidays and many weekends with Lin and her family. 

Lin and I were roommates Freshman and Senior Year. We slowly became good friends but then we drifted apart after graduation; we were very different people, and our lives had less and less in common as time passed. I saw Lin perhaps six times between graduation and the year she died, but our meetings were always warm and affectionate. 

I think Lin was very happy at Mount Holyoke. The subjects of greatest interest to her were Religion and Art; I can't remember which one became her major, but she loved them both. In the summer of 1962, between Junior and Senior Year, we traveled to Europe together, along with Jane Ashbrook. I had never attended a single art lecture at college, and had hardly even been inside a museum. That summer I got an extraordinary exposure to art and art history as the three of us spent our days in the great museums of Europe. Linden helped me learn how to look at and think about art. 

Shortly after we graduated, Lin married John Banghart, also from Greenwich, a graduate of Trinity who was doing his military service in the Marine Corps during our senior year. When President Kennedy ordered Krushchev to remove missiles from Cuba, there was a real risk that John would be among the Marines sent to Cuba; those were terrifying days for all of us, but for Lin the fear and worry were intensely and painfully personal. 

John and Lin were married immediately after graduation. They lived in Greenwich and then in Manhattan, and then I lost track of them for several years. Lin was a wonderful cook and home maker: each home that I visited was beautifully decorated, and much of what I saw she had made herself. She had no small amount of Martha Stewart talent.

When Lin and I reconnected, she and John were divorced; they had no children. She was living and work in Maine, and she did meet another man who made her happy.

Lin and I were both smokers during and after college. Unfortunately for Lin, the cigarettes led to terminal lung cancer. I last saw her at Brigham and Women's Hospital. I asked what she most wanted and she said "two more years." She died a few weeks later. Lin did not have an easy life, but I believe she had a great ability to find joy in life and not feel sorry for herself. In my experience, she was always generous, kind, and openhearted.


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